Who it's for — a couple

A shared decision that neither of you can quietly undo alone

Couples usually reach for this after one partner has already tried and failed to hold a limit alone. The fix is not more trust or more willpower — it is moving the authority to lift a block from the person the block is meant to constrain to the person who is not in the room at 1 a.m.

How it actually works between two people

One of you sets up filtering on your own device and invites the other as a partner. From that point, you can always add more protection yourself — no approval needed. Removing it is the part that changes: your partner grants a time-boxed unlock, or reads you a one-time code, and you cannot lift a block unilaterally.

This is deliberately not mutual surveillance. Your partner sees which categories and domains are blocked and which devices are linked — never your browsing history, messages, or calls. There is nothing for them to see because nothing is collected in the first place, not because of a promise not to look.

The arrangement is asymmetric on purpose: the person being protected can always tighten the limit; only the partner can loosen it. If both of you want mutual filtering, you each set it up on your own device and become each other's partner — the same asymmetry applies in both directions independently.

What each partner actually gets

• Two unlock paths, both partner-controlled

  A remote, time-boxed unlock pushed from the partner's phone, or a one-time code they read aloud — the second one works with zero connectivity, which matters at exactly the moment it's needed.

• A request, not a demand

  The protected partner can send an unlock request; the partner decides whether and when to grant it. Nothing forces an instant answer.

• Data survives even if you reinstall

  Categories and the blocklist are tied to the account, not the device, so a factory reset or a new phone does not quietly reset the limit either.

• The block screen helps instead of scolding

  Hitting a block opens a breathing exercise, a written reason, and a one-tap call — often to the very partner who holds the key, which is a very different conversation than being caught.

What this isn't

• Not a way to monitor a partner who hasn't agreed to it

  Setting this up on someone else's device without their knowledge and consent is not a use case this product supports — the whole model assumes the protected person chose the limit for themselves.

• Not couples therapy

  It removes a specific bad moment's easiest escape route. It does not resolve what led there — that is a conversation, possibly with a professional, not a settings screen.

Questions couples actually ask

Will my partner see what I actually looked at?

No. They see the blocklist and device status, never browsing history, messages, or content. The asymmetry is authority over the setting, not visibility into your life.

What if my partner isn't available when I need an unlock?

The one-time code path is designed for exactly this — it works fully offline once your partner reads it to you over any channel (a call, a text from elsewhere), so "my partner is asleep" isn't a dead end.

Can we both be each other's partner?

Yes — each of you sets up your own device and names the other as your partner. The rules apply independently in each direction.

What if we break up or the arrangement stops making sense?

Either of you can unlink the pairing from your own account settings. This isn't designed to trap anyone in an arrangement they no longer want.